Day 12 Blogging Olympics: Counter Post To Article I Disagree With

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Day 12 of the Blogging Olympics!  I’m closing in on the finish line now; only a few more posts left!  Today the challenge is Wrestling, as in finding a blog post you disagree with and write a counter post, while remaining respectful to the fellow blogger.

To be honest, I haven’t really seen any blog post that I totally disagreed with. I might have a different perspective, but I still find value in what has been written. 

However, at one point, I was considering writing an article on potential causes of Fibromyalgia and found one article in particular that I very much disagreed with.

The article purports that hopeless diseases like Fibromyalgia (which is mentioned by name, along with cancer) are caused by bad relationships with other people. The article, entitled “The Remedy for Many Hopeless Diseases,” can be found here. 

The article claims that hopeless illnesses, including cancer, come about because people are in or have been in a bad relationship with someone close to them. Bad relationships include being abused or cheated on or someone close to you violating any part of your moral code.

I disagree with this completely.  While undue stress while coping with situations like this may make things worse for someone with a chronic illness, I do NOT believe it is the cause.  It seems a little absurd to me to even claim that every one of the millions of people with Fibromyalgia have it because they are stuck in a bad relationship of some sort or are unable to recover from a past negative relationship.

One quote from this article says, “Happy families are healthy families.  If you see a sick baby, you know the parents are fighting!  They are breaking society's moral code that you should raise children in a loving and happy home!”

I agree happy families are healthy in some ways, but that doesn’t mean someone in a happy family isn’t going to have a chronic illness like Fibromyalgia or get cancer.  Also, to assume that a baby is sick, because the parents are fighting is sad to me.  All human beings get sick sometimes and I do NOT believe that every time a child gets sick it is because the parents are fighting. 

I DO belief that being happy and positive are important steps to managing a chronic illness and maintaining good relationships is very important.  But I would be the last person in the world to blame someone else for my illness. 

Can you imagine what the world would be like if we all ran around blaming other people and relationships for the pain and suffering of the world? 

I would rather own that I have Fibromyalgia and continue down the path of trying to be as positive as possible, rather than wasting time exploring past relationships trying to figure out what “bad” relationship caused it. 

I’ve never been in an abusive relationship. My marriage has its ups and downs, like any long-term relationship, but to claim Fibromyalgia came from it? It seems too much like a blame game with the wrong focus to me.

Building a good life despite Fibromyalgia is far more important to me

 than trying to find someone to blame.  I find the article to be heartbreaking.

I cannot imagine what someone who has just been diagnosed with cancer or Fibromyalgia or MS or anything else would feel if they came across this article when they were trying to understand what was happening to them and was told it’s just an issue of you not being strong enough to cope with a bad relationship.

Horrifying! I shudder to think that there are people who may believe this.  Obviously, I do NOT suggest staying in an abusive or bad situation is desirable in anyway, but I also cannot accept that I have Fibromyalgia due to a bad relationship somewhere in my life.

According to this article, “It would not be unusual for you to refuse to see it when it is right in front of your face!”

So perhaps, the author of this article is a genius who has figured out the real “cause” of every major illness and disease in the world. For those of us who do not believe, clearly there is something wrong with us for refusing to see the obvious.

Well, I simply disagree-completely, whole-heartedly, without exception.  Enough said.

Honestly, I would not have even put any energy towards this article at all, if it weren’t for the Blogging Olympics challenge.  Unfortunately, this is the only article I have EVER read that I disagree with the entire premise, the examples, and nearly everything else in the article.